Relatables by Obangaber❤

Have you ever gone through so much that you start believing that you are now immune to the effect of bad situations. In you head you believe you have built an unimpenetrable wall around your heart that it cant be touched, in otherward you believe your heart is harder than a rock. You reach a point where you feel nothing can phase you at all, then BOOM you encounter something that turns your heart inside out. Well, welcome to the story of my life. It is exactly one month today since my house caught fire. So 2023 was being its normal self, hard difficult and very few things going right as the responsibilities kept increasing. I had developed a heart as hard as rock, atleast that's what I believed. I didn't know 2023 had it's not very nice plans waiting for me. Amidst everything going on in my mind one Monday evening in the last week of May I decided to go to a nearby trading Centre to check on something my sister had told me to buy for my niece. Usually I like to walk to the...

 If you ask my siblings, they will testify to u how they tried so hard to teach me how to read but they were just getting nowhere. I learnt how to read when I was 10 I was in Primary four(4). I have a niece who could read a Bible fluently by the time she was 5 years, not children's Bible but big people's Bible. Back to my siblings, between the age of 6-10 my siblings really tried. I had one problem, cram work. They would show me a word and I would just look at the first letter then just mention any words with those features. For example they would show me a word like cow I would see C and say Cat. When they say no I again say cup. Then they would tell me no, at this point I don't not know what they want from me so I hold my chin and look up trying to think of the word. That usually got a reaction of what u are reading is not up there, look into the book.  My siblings were in upper primary and secondary so they felt they could help me with my reading but I made it so difficu...

" Boys don't cry, you cry like a girl and man up ". This is how I saw boys raised my whole life, if am to ever have a son there is a 98% chance I will raise him that way coz its the only way I know. In my society boys/ men are not to show any sign of weakness, we believe showing emotions is a sign of weakness. Me on the other hand being a female am expected to be emotional, yes when I was a little girl I was emotional but as I grew I realized I can't show people my emotions (the negative one). I have always gotten this questions, Do you ever get annoyed? Do you even know how to cry? 🤦🏿‍♀🤦🏿‍♀ of cause yes I do get annoyed go and ask my pillow, I am an expert at crying. I don't show my emotions in public not because am afraid to look weak but because I am a very ugly crier, me crying is just straight up ugly, there is completely nothing cute about it. Its just all so messy and just after one minute of crying my eyes are all so red and my face swollen. I am tha...

 Its funny how the process to being a mother for the first time is just not emphasized enough. There were so many things that I wished I was prepared for right from pregnancy. There are things which are over emphasized but are not so bad, then there are these ones which people do not really talk about. I welcomed my first baby in December 2020, me getting to December is a whole different story. I went for a c-section based on my complications as at that time. During pregnancy i got close to my baby, so I thought. Reality put me back in check when the gyn removed her and I felt completely nothing for my baby. They brought her to me and I just looked at her and said OK.  I stayed in the hospital for two more days and came back home and I felt so guilty for feeling nothing for that poor innocent child. I knew she was my responsibility so I was getting her milk changing her clothes and diapers and trying to feed her. It was after a while that I started getting emotionally attached...