First time motherhood

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 Its funny how the process to being a mother for the first time is just not emphasized enough.

There were so many things that I wished I was prepared for right from pregnancy. There are things which are over emphasized but are not so bad, then there are these ones which people do not really talk about.

I welcomed my first baby in December 2020, me getting to December is a whole different story.

I went for a c-section based on my complications as at that time. During pregnancy i got close to my baby, so I thought. Reality put me back in check when the gyn removed her and I felt completely nothing for my baby. They brought her to me and I just looked at her and said OK. 

I stayed in the hospital for two more days and came back home and I felt so guilty for feeling nothing for that poor innocent child. I knew she was my responsibility so I was getting her milk changing her clothes and diapers and trying to feed her.



It was after a while that I started getting emotionally attached to her, I think about 3-4 weeks.

In case it happens to you, don't be like me. I felt like I was the worst mother in the world and that delayed and affected my milk production.

Right now we are the closest things ever known to me.


Take one step at a time and let life continue


Lucky Obangaber Ogweng

Comments

  1. AnonymousNovember 15, 2023 at 6:24 AM

    This reminds me of my wife, it took more than 2 days to produce milk. She wasn't prepared for CS, I came as a last result since labour pains were not experienced

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    1. Lucky Obangaber OgwengNovember 16, 2023 at 10:36 AM

      Yea the journey to motherhood has its very unique effects on mothers.

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